Life's Like That

This is a story about a guy and a girl.
Guy love a girl, girl blur, going to somewhere far soon, Guy sad = the end?

Love is a tricky business, even trickier to define, but based on my experiences, I guess I kinda have a bit of grasp on what it's all about, tho I never really understand it yet.

Early relationships resulted in more break-ups compared to later ones which enjoyed better emotional stability. Like the story of the little girl and the three bears, where she tries their bed, the first and the second is either too soft or too hard, but the last one is just perfect.

Well, let's use a metaphor for a love partner, buying an SLR(lol, sorry, that's the first thing that came through my mind xD)Don't just buy the one you THINK is good. Before buying, you gotta read the review,get to know it, know all of its weaknesses and strengths, compromise on the weaknesses you can live with and the strengths that you can't live without,no one's perfect! then you make your purchase.

After that everything will work like magic coz you've already known each other's strengths and weaknesses, complementing each others abilities to make each other a better person.

Or you can just think of it like a jigsaw puzzle. It's the different pieces that fits each other, not the exact same shaped pieces. Get what I'm trying to say here? It's not about finding the perfect person,but it's about finding someone that is just right for ourselves. Of course, having too many differences ain't gonna work too.

That's the easy part, now let's go to the maintaining part.>:D
And after a while I also learned that all we need is selflessness, we just gotta learn to be emotionally open, you gotta lower your defenses, that's the only way to accept intimacy.

Of course, lowering your emotional defenses does have its consequences,

During that time you'll also be emotionally vulnerable and weak, even the smallest cut, cuts REAAAAAAL DEEP, doesnt matter how strong you think you are.....believe me on this one....that's the price you gotta pay if you wanna accept anyone into your life.

You'll trust them with full honesty, there's no place for doubts and suspicions. When you found they lied, BAM! It's like hitting a brick wall, everything will come crashing down.

This brings us to 'forgiveness'.

No doubt, in a relationship, fights gonna happen, mostly because of misunderstandings. And in this fight, the winner is NOT who gets to say the last word, but it's the first person who say 'sorry', the first person who ask for forgiveness.

And also, as far as I can see, the best couples are not the one who just met each other in one day and go from there. Usually they are the best of friends, the person who's around you all this while, the one that you're most comfortable with.

They are the people who gone through the storms with you and watching the rainbows together. Offer you a hand when you're down and elevate you even higher when you've already up. They will still treat each other as best friends, doing meaningful things together.